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The question surprised me. Early on in our relationship, I brought up a very tough, but very necessary conversation. I was specifically referring to marriage and kids. That opened up a conversation about what we wanted for our lives, as individuals and where we saw this relationship going.
Sometimes those emotions creep in and make things more challenging to deal with. That and everyone else in your situation is also dealing with their own version of emotions, so things can get complicated and quickly. To this day, I have not met a stepmom who feels like step-parenting has been easier than they thought! People often assume there was an affair Society presumes there is turf wars between you and the ex … That you're trying to take over, or that you resent the kids for being around.
Like I said above, there are many emotions that come with step-parenting or dating a man with kids. You may feel awkward at events as the new girlfriend, especially around those who knew your boyfriend while he was married. There can be a major transition period — just know it does pass — it does get better!
Please, always respect the kids. Pick up on those cues and respect them. Trying to force yourself on the kids will backfire in a huge way. Take baby steps, let them come to you, and focus on building a relationship. There are a lot of factors contributing to how they react. It feels invasive and extremely uncomfortable. My dad once had a girlfriend who would sit on his knee and wear his shirts whenever she was at our house. Respect their routines and ways of going about things!
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The process of grief is not a brief one. How well has your guy worked through his divorce? Most men live with guilt post-divorce, even when a divorce is more than warranted. They feel especially powerless and shameful if the mother of their children turned out to be not such a great mother. How well has your guy worked through the angst of his marriage ending?
Has he truly moved on? Is he ready for another committed relationship? Explore these questions early in the relationship. BTW, if he's separated versus divorced, consider that a red flag. There's a reason for the expression, "Fools rush in where angels fear to tread.
This is critical. If he has a hostile relationship with his ex, you can expect a lot more complications than what will already naturally exist when dating or living with a guy who has kids. Hostile ex-wives tend to extend their bitterness to the new woman in her ex's life. Some will try to alienate their children from their father as well as his new partner.
Privacy in the home becomes difficult because angry mothers tend to interrogate their children when they return home from Dad's house. Some love to file court hearings at the drop of a hat and there is the potential for you, if you are living or ultimately married to him, to be pulled into these post-marital dramas.
If he has a friendly relationship with his ex, how friendly is it? Some men feel pulled between their ex and their new partner. Find out where you stand in this picture. Many of you may have found out the hard way that your new love had lousy boundaries with his ex. The ex dropped by, came into the home and maybe even had a key! There were texts, emails and phone calls on a constant basis.
Your new guy may be constantly complaining to you about his ex and before you know it, you are both caught up in the drama of continually talking about her latest antics. This is not a topic that you want to be the thing that binds you. Healthy boundaries must be established to preserve the privacy and sanity of you both as the new couple.
This is not to suggest that friendship between exes isn't a good thing. It's great for them to get along but things have to change when another person enters the picture. Boundaries must be created to prevent unwanted intrusions. Your guy must make it clear to his ex about how much communication is needed and to emphasize that it needs to be focused on the kids.
It's not uncommon for divorced men, especially if they think their ex is a less-than-adequate mother, to want you to come in and fill a "mommy hole" for his children. Men may not consciously realize this, but most divorced men I work with will admit to wanting their new partner to be a bit like Mother Teresa and Mary Poppins combined. Your guy loves you, thinks your terrific, and may want you to sprinkle your magic fairy dust around and help him clean up any mess left over from his previous marriage and divorce.
This is a big time set up! There is no such thing as a "bonus mom" unless the kids themselves decide to see you that way and the majority of them won't. You would be wise to make it clear that you have no intentions of trying to buck nature blood is thicker than water and are more than willing to treat his children in kind and loving ways and support him in his role as a parent.
Know that his children will most likely take a long time to accept you. Fantasies of "The Brady Brunch" and a "blended" family are attached to, despite the fact that neither one of these are realistic for most. It's not uncommon for children to love their father's girlfriend but as soon as Dad and girlfriend say, "I do", their feelings change drastically, often times confusing even them.
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