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There was a problem filtering reviews right now. Please try again later. Verified Purchase. The advice given is terrible. To make a long story short, the author thinks the way for a Black woman to get a white man is to act like a stereotypical Asian woman. To hear this author talk, Black women are the most undateable and the other races are so perfect. There is good and bad in everyone. If a person has to change so much in order to get a man of any race that they can't be themselves and they have to live a lie, then what is the point?
Please ladies, skip this book. It will do nothing but either make you angry or lower your self esteem or both. This book is very one sided. Of course it is curated according to the author's experience, but here is the problem. Hmm NO! I also agree with the reviewer who states the book encourages people pleasing. According to this book I have to change everything I am to attract a man and it is all superficial.
The author must have encountered some pretty shallow individuals in her life. I was looking more for suggestions to enhance who I am as a person, not a How To on reconstructing myself into a fake, shallow, paper cut-out of a woman.
The book is a very bad representation of white men and their expectations and attractions of women This book is borderline shaming! Please use your best discretion when reading it. Take away only what is helpful. Dress like a lady, don't be ghetto, don't live in the hood blah, blah blah. I was hoping for something more. Really, it is! If you have been out of the dating game for awhile, or if you have felt that you need help with dating this book is for you!
I have actually read it twice now. Some of the advice in here IS common sense, but we ladies need reminders. And some ladies out there really need good solid common sense dating advice. But other things in this book really give you something to think about and to learn from! Some of the advice here I never even considered! Or I had but had chastised myself for thinking that way, and now I know my thinking was spot on!
I considered buying this book for well over a year before I actually purchased it! I don't know why I took so long. I guess when the student is ready the teacher will appear. If you are a Black women you should really pick this book up. I know the title says 'White men,' but this book will help you be successful with ALL men. Honestly one of the best dating books I've read.
Perfect, for helping you to get back out there after a long absence or getting out there to get this dating thing right! Great read. Very direct and honest. I personally didn't choose to read this book to attract "white men".
No, I'm not equating whiteness with a particular class, but let's be honest, there is a striking correlation. For both Blacks and Whites. This book is brutally honest and that is a good thing. I think it has a lot of good advice in it. She also helps to make you not feel so guilty. I don't know why but some black women me included feel like we are "in the closet" about admitting we like white guys too. We are afraid of being found out and I think white guys pick up on that too.
But she gives you specific how-to's and I love this book. I have highlighted so much and will continue to refer back. This book has been very helpful to me. Even though I have dated interracially for years, I realized a couple of things that I have done in the past that I will correct for future dates. An example would be mentioning that I only date white men, or asking my date if they have ever dated a black woman before.
Also, I will pay attention to my facial expressions more now. Sometimes even though I may not be in a bad mood, my body language might be perceived as such. I don't have to walk around smiling like a Cheshire cat but I will definitely have a pleasant expression on my face. I really enjoyed this book. See all reviews. Top reviews from other countries. I'm always fascinated by these types of books. That not to say they don't like you, they do your just not the right material for their son..
Grow you own hair naturally if you have Afro hair,there are youtube video on this, if you don't accept yourself first how can you expect others to this? Many experts feel the reaction is symptomatic of attitudes that many in the community, especially certain men, have held toward women in interracial relationships, particularly with white men. Sung Yeon Choimorrow, executive director of the nonprofit National Asian Pacific American Women's Forum, told NBC Asian America that by passing judgment on Asian women's interracial relationships without context or details essentially removes their independence.
Kellie, who came to the U. She explained she had previously been in an arranged marriage in which she endured domestic abuse. Kellie Chauvin is hardly the only Asian woman who has been the target of these comments. But sociologist Nancy Wang Yuen, a scholar focused on Asian American media representation, pointed out that the origins of such anger have some validity.
That time period marked some of the first waves of immigration from Asia to the U. While Asian men made their way stateside, women largely remained in Asia. Moreover, antimiscegenation laws, or bans on interracial unions, kept Asian men from marrying other races, Yuen noted. Virginia, that such legislation was declared unconstitutional. Because of immigration laws, there was a whole bachelor society … and so you have all these different kinds of Asian men in the United States who did not have partners.
As the image of Asian men was once, in part, the architecture of racist legislation, the sexless, undesirable trope was further confirmed by Hollywood depictions of the race. Even heartthrob Japanese actor Sessue Hayakawa, who did experience appeal from white women, was used to show Asian men as sexual threats during a period of rising anti-Japanese sentiment.
Often, these portrayals of both men and women evolved with war, Yuen added. For example, the sexualization of Asian women on screen was heightened after the Vietnam War due to prostitution and sex trafficking that American military men often took part in.
Yuen is quick to point out that Asian women, who possessed very little decision-making power throughout U. The historical emasculation of Asian men stings to this day. A study from OkCupid found that Asian men were ranked least desirable among all demographics. Another study found that the majority of its Asian American female respondents reported their attraction, from a young age, was overwhelmingly to European American boys.
However, directing anger toward Asian women for their interracial relationships uncovers a host of problematic underlying beliefs, experts said. Some of the vitriol stems from erroneous assumptions that because women are seen as more sexually desirable, they are therefore more privileged. In what world do you see Asian women getting frontrunners for public office, being tapped to be CEOs of companies, to be considered for leads in Hollywood movies? Moreover, Choimorrow said the idea that Asian women are more privileged ignores the dangerous byproducts of their fetishization.
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With their source of information being local newspapers that simply cite a single source, the kinds of data people are presented with are not necessarily wide-reaching or true for the greater part of different populations. If you are reading this article, you probably already like Asian women. But here are 20 reasons why you should try international dating , as well as interracial dating.
Black-Asian couples are not the most common thing in the world. So, what gives? Black people and Asians are, at least within the US and a lot of countries in the West, occupants of the lowest percentage group of the population. This makes for one group of people that are hard to come by even harder to come by for the other group of people. Chinese people are generally nice and friendly towards foreigners for a whole number of reasons. However, when it comes to relationships and marriage, different factors come into play.
It may not be the Asian woman, herself, that has anything against foreign men. Younger generations are a lot less racist and xenophobic. That might be a good reason to look into dating younger women. One too many marriages have either been stopped, stalled or complicated to a point beyond repair.
And just because the parents did not approve of their daughter being a foreign man. Within a certain unwritten threshold, the paler the better. Black men have a whole set of myths about them but since this is a site about dating beautiful Asian women, I am going to concentrate on the most common myths about Asian Women. This myth is deeply rooted in history. This includes in countries like China and Japan where women were expected to be obedient to men their whole lives. They needed to obey their fathers before they got married and their husbands after they got married.
This belief is more popular among white people than it is in the black community. One of the most common reasons why Asian women love black men. Believe it or not, Asian women want the candid respect and care a man would treat his own mother with. To them, marriage is considered a two-sided contract.
The man should treat her with candid decency and respect and she will keep her side of the bargain. Admittedly, a lot of Asian women do have that younger look and keep it as they age. And it gives them the appearance of being innocent and naive.
This is yet another myth rooted deep in traditional beliefs and a culture long since dead. In ancient traditions, women were expected to have four main virtues: integrity, beauty, a good speaker and skilled with the needle. She had no right to voice her opinion and was expected to quietly accept what the man decided was right.
Asian women from some cultures do tend to be more submissive than, say, your average American. Unlike the myths before, this one is a lot more common among Asian women themselves than other communities. There do exist a number of Asian women whose sole interest is to get a man white or black who will be their ticket to the US, regardless of racial background, but they are in the minority.
In fact, this greatly depends on the girl herself rather than a major conspiracy by the Asian community as a whole. There was a brief time when I tried combing these forums in search of discussions about dating Chinese men, hoping to gain some insights, but I soon gave that up. Whenever anyone dared to broach the subject, usually someone would quickly pounce on the thread and sully it with some juvenile comment about Chinese men that wasn't all that different from that Long Duk Dong movie still.
The worst of these threads generally devolved into a low-brow, expletive-laden conversation more appropriate for a bathroom stall. Whether in forums or blogs, the negative online discourse about Chinese men is consistent with Psychologist Zhang Jiehai's findings from surveys on "Chinese Men in the Eyes of Western Women" as reported by China's Xinhua News Agency in I provided an English translation on my blog.
This Shanghai Academy of Social Sciences professor surveyed over Western women from diverse countries including France, Germany and the USA via questionnaires, and then interviewed over 20 of them in a focus group in Shanghai. While respondents praised Chinese men for certain qualities -- "looking after one's family," "willing to spend money on women," and "relatively serious about relationships between men and women" -- the admiration ended there.
Negative impressions ultimately dominated as the women criticized Chinese men as "not so gentlemanly," "poor physique, not enough exercise," "no personality, lacking unique opinions," even condemning them on perceived personal hygiene problems. One American participant in the study actually blamed Hollywood for projecting a poor image of Chinese men around the world, and I couldn't help but wonder if she was thinking of Sixteen Candles at the time.
Zhang's findings -- that Western women from around the world have consistently pejorative ideas about Chinese men -- remind me this isn't a problem confined to some insular expat circles in China. It's a troubling problem, one that even gets me and my husband down. Look across East Asia or, for that matter, any country in the Western world, and you'll notice a very revealing gap in the Asian interracial dating world: lots of Asian women and Western men together, and nary an Asian man with a Western woman in sight.
A Field Report from Hong Kong. The result? A total of couples of Western men and Asian women versus only six couples of Asian men and Western women including him and his Brazilian wife. You could substitute Hong Kong with the name of any country or region in the world and end up with comparable results. Even Chinese-American men don't feel the love from their fellow Americans, lamenting this in essays such as " Are Asian Men Undateable?
In search of explanations for why so few Western women date Chinese men, some China expats have suggested cultural differences are the primary reason. I agree that culture plays a role when you're a foreigner in China dating the locals. I've experienced my share of cultural misunderstandings in my relationships in China, including my own marriage, and have even blogged about why it's actually harmful to ignore cultural differences in a cross-cultural relationship. Yet when I think about the global reach of this problem, and the fact that it's even tough for Western-born Chinese to score a date outside of their own race, I know deep down that cultural differences -- as much as they matter in relationships -- cannot alone account for why few Western women date Chinese men.
When I think about how a racist caricature from Hollywood gets tossed around among expats as a symbol of Chinese men -- and Westerners from around the world harbor consistently negative views of Chinese men -- I realize there's a dark side to this whole discussion. So here's where the conversation gets a little uncomfortable.
Whenever expats discuss racism in China, we usually focus on Chinese people and their racist attitudes such as the experience of being black in China. These are very critical discussions that we need and should continue to have. But what about the conversations about expats themselves and their own homegrown stereotypes and prejudices about Asians and Chinese people? When will we as expats begin to confront these, our very own baggage that we inadvertently pack along with us in our overseas journeys to the Middle Kingdom?
More importantly, when we will learn that in any given country and culture, there exists a diversity of individuals and personalities? That's true anywhere in the world, including China. Whenever someone dismisses China's entire male population as undateable, they're essentially denying that diversity.
And believe me, there is incredible diversity when you actually open your eyes and your heart to the possibility. I opened my eyes and my heart to the possibility of love in China, and found it with my husband, John. I'm reminded of the many love stories that Western women and Chinese men have submitted to my blog, giving me the honor and privilege to experience that on a personal level.
There's the fun-loving fellow from Xi'an who described himself as a "foreign student turned party boy," the beefcake husband from Hebei she considered "China's answer to Arnold Schwarzenegger," the Shanghai-based writer from Anhui who studied English literature and mused about his unforgettable romances with black women in the US. This fall marks 15 years since I first set foot in China. It's also 15 years since I first learned that most Western women in China refuse to date Chinese men.
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