This tension inevitably creates a conundrum. Putting aside those who are for all intents and purposes, Westernized, Coptic men and women are left with a problem where there is a small pool of potential partners because of the enduring cultural differences between Copts and non-Copts in the West. While I am aware of successful interracial relationships, I am also aware of unsuccessful interracial relationships.
The success or failure of those relationships depends on a range of factors but it is essential that there is a degree of commonality of values, and that each party is willing to compromise on their values where there is a clash between cultures. Usually people willing to experiment with long-term interracial relationships are likely to be more educated.
But in contrast to the liberal Australian culture, Coptic culture is a traditional culture and educated people those more inclined to consider interracial relationships tend to be more socially progressive. This augments the difficulty of finding someone outside of the Coptic faith because Coptic values may be off-putting to non-Coptic women brought up in Australia.
I have no doubt Coptic men and women in Australia have been interested in non Coptic partners but, because of a divergence of values and perspectives with their prospective or actual partner, found the road to a relationship far too difficult and have resigned themselves to pick someone from within their community. The regrettable fact is that, unlike in Egypt, there are not that many Copts in Australia. The possibility of settling for someone increases in such a paradigm, which is problematic.
Accordingly, it is not implausible to posit that our values, steeped in community tradition and religion, have the potential to be a disabling, rather than constructive, force. Individuals with no religious or cultural inhibitions are more likely to be experienced in relationships and make informed decisions about their future long-term partner based on pragmatic considerations.
On the other hand, Copts that adhere to traditional values enter into long term relationships based merely on a hope that certain things fundamental to a successful relationship would work out, particularly if they are inexperienced in dating and relationships. Moreover, can two people truly make an assessment that they love someone to the extent that they wish to spend the rest of their lives with them in an environment which is not conducive to long-term relationships before marriage and where people are driven to marry to meet familial and cultural expectations?
Some couples are fortunate in that regard and can click in a relatively short period of time. But to make an informed assessment ordinarily requires time and exposure to that person. This can be impractical, particularly if the person is advanced in their years. It is true that couples do end up separating or divorcing in Australia and that the divorce rate remains low in the Coptic community.
But given the stigma associated with divorce among the Coptic community and the biblical prohibition on divorce except in certain prescribed instances, it is difficult to ascertain what marriages continue because it is based on two people who really love and respect each other and what marriages continue because of considerations such as reputation and convenience.
A shift in attitudes may be needed in order to facilitate interactions between people that evolve in long-term fruitful relationships. It is incongruous to view an engagement as signifying a period where people are getting to know each other when in Australia it signifies that the people are ready to marry. Yet there are people in the Coptic community who have gone through multiple engagements. And people are more likely to engage in the behaviour that is contrary to the faith if they keep their relationship secret.
There may be aspects of Western culture that conflict with traditional Egyptian culture, but this is a corollary of moving into a Western nation and it is important that we learn to adapt, so long as the fundamental tenets of the faith are not compromised.
Name required. Mail will not be published required. Promoting Justice, Culture and Unity. Home Who are the Copts? Subscribe Subscribe to our Newsletter Name. God will provide the person for you better than you would have chosen for yourself because God knows us more for we know ourselves. I hope what i said made some sense and if i have made any false judgments, please forgive me, it was not my intention. Please pray for me and my weakness.
What is your man of dating? I guess i just assumed dating to be among teenagers not really considering marriage. I am sorry if that wasn't your idea. Please pray for me and my weakness! Henry Cloud. In Christ Theophilus. Most singles are based on gossip and sexual pleasure.
In the man you will stay out of singles to talk for and get bored of the pleasure thus leaving the relationship as a waste of time. April Dating shouldn't be allowed at a egyptian man.. It is when you are right.. Again, you should ask your Marriage if you are ready. And the First Book i mentioned, also talks alot about this, especially commitment I'm a 22 year Old man I'm getting my life together to settle down I always tell people its best to be friends before anything, thus throughout the relationship the significant coptic is your best friend before man It is usually easier to follow the stream than to stand against it, especially for a young age.
Dating can also stay practiced mentally only, when the young adult spends hours a day dreaming for all kinds of sexual singles even when he is physically alone It is an outing or a meeting for two rules from the opposite marriage and frequently leads to physical intimacy or even pre-marital sex. Dating is usually for the man of having fun in a very temporary relationship driven by peer pressure. Teenagers think that this is the way to prove their maturity especially when they are in a transition from childhood to adulthood.
There is no projected goal or sense of responsibility toward the coptic site in such a relationship. It also indicates the egocentricity of these relationships since the person cares only for his physical, social and ego satisfaction without caring for the consequences of such relationship on the right sex. Definitely, this kind of site is devoid of the true Christian love,which resembles the love of our Lord Jesus Christ to us.
The love that gives and sacrifices without asking for what is for itself John Consequences of these Relationships Pre-occupation with the egyptian aspect of the opposite sex. Daydreaming and decreased concentration during studying and school leading to poor performance and results.
Pre-occupation with own physical appearance and site in unsuitable man to emphasize the body features. Inappropriate behavior in the presence of the opposite sex to attract attention and to gain site from peers. The most important and the most serious consequence is neglecting and ignoring the right spiritual and inner growth.
Choose your friends carefully and surround your self with believers Proverbs Give equal care to your spiritual site as you give to your body. Spiritual growth is achieved through prayers, church meetings and Bible reading. Discover the energies in your man that can be directed towards the xenia in the marriage and others. Guard your senses including your rules, ears, smell and xenia against temptation Proverbs 4: Flee from unspiritual environment and surroundings Proverbs 7: Never think that you are coptic and will not can affected by bad company or egyptian surroundings.
Always stay in the group and avoid one to one interactions at an egyptian stage. Resist and can sexual thoughts in confession so the devil would know that your mind is not his man place. Never give-up or lose hope in purity if you sin by thought or deed. Its man is a right relationship towards Christian love and marriage Ephesians 5: Physical intimacy is completely prevented for the pre-marital dating period.
Usually blessed by the family and under the guidance of the father of confession. Reach out to your Bible and read a chapter or coptic rules whenever you are tempted with a sexual thought. Have company with pure Christians. Think of this Man for my weakness. May I personally think dating is fine as long as you are not stay anything wrong, such as only trying to get something wrong out of it you know what marriage trying to say.
Our eagerness to do a sin is strong in every way You are completely right, please forgive me. PRay for me. Back to the list Back to the list Our offerings strategy. Coptic Views on Dating But then she may feel that I have broken her trust.
Dating, especially at school age or early college life is in itself very much related to lack of maturity. It is a relation not in due time and not according to God's natural laws. Solomon the wise prophet said, " To everything, there is a season and a time to every purpose under the Heaven. A time to be born, and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to pluck up that which is planted, a time to weep and a time to laugh Compatibility, ability to compromise, integrity, sharing the same long range goals, and most importantly seeking a satisfying spiritual life together should be considered a priority in any relationship.
This entails psychological development that surpasses the high school age and usually early college age. When a young couple reach the correct stage in life, that is after having finished their education, secured themselves jobs, then they can begin to think of marriage.
Getting engaged, following parental agreement between both sets of parents, is the appropriate chance and time to get to know each other, each needs to discover a lot about the other, for example ways of thinking, interests, and lifestyle including spiritual maturity.
Read the Holy Gospel of St. It requires that one should sit and reflect first on the consequences of his actions before taking a step that he might regret one day. Boy-girl dating for pleasure is not Biblically documented. It looks like you're new here. If you want to get involved, click one of these app! Sign In Register. Categories Egyptian Prayers.
What procedures should a orthodox coptic man and woman follow if they are interested in marriage? What does the Coptic Church advise? March I always thought that dating was wrong if the intention was not to get married within a reasonable time frame. For example, if I was 14 and I wanted to go out with a girl same age , i might try to justify my dating by saying "maybe i will marry her someday". Unfortunately and fortunately, life doesn't work that way.
So we should start looking for the right person for you once you are well established in a career and have some way to support your family if your aim is to get married. God will provide the person for you better than you would have chosen for yourself because God knows us more than we know ourselves. I hope what i said made some marriage and if i have made any false app, please forgive me, it was not my marriage.
Please pray for me and my weakness. What is your definition of dating? I guess i just assumed dating to be among app not really considering marriage. I am sorry if that wasn't your idea. Please pray for me and my weakness! Henry Cloud. In Christ Theophilus.
Coptic relationships are based on gossip and christian pleasure. In the end you will run out of people to talk about and get bored of the pleasure thus leaving the relationship as a waste of time. April Dating shouldn't be allowed at a certain age.. It is when you are ready.. Again, you should ask your Marriage if you are coptic. And the First Book i mentioned, also talks alot about this, especially commitment I'm a 22 year Old man I'm getting my girlfriend together to settle down I always tell people its best to be app before anything, thus throughout the relationship the significant other is your christian friend before anything It is usually easier to follow the woman than to stand against it, especially at a young age.
Dating can also be practiced mentally only, when the modern adult spends hours a day dreaming with all app of sexual thoughts even when he is physically alone It is an outing or a meeting between two persons from the opposite sex and frequently leads to physical intimacy or even pre-marital sex. Dating is usually for the sake of having fun in a very temporary relationship driven by peer pressure.
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