During a breakup , when you made the decision to separate from someone, society expects you to always be fine. Take the time to develop the perfect attitude which will be determined by your plan of action. Now that you know your ex has to play up the situation in order to adhere to what society and their loved ones expect of them, you will have to work on making them want to come back, but proving that you are the ideal person for them. As a general rule, people have a tendency to beg their ex to stay in contact, or worse still, to make promises of change as you plead with them to take you back.
The only thing this will do is making your ex want to get farther and farther away from you. In turn, what you can do is work on establishing a good bond with your ex. You need to focus on the method of getting them back that you will have planned out. This is an excellent way to regain control of the situation, little by little, and before you know it, your ex will be the one depending on you.
I come across this situation very often. I invite you to take action to stop worrying, and to get back in control. Bonus: 3 advanced strategies that will turn you into a Human Relationships Expert and give you the tools to get back with the one you love My ex is dating someone else, are we officially over? However, some studies suggest that there may be some benefits to a rebound relationship.
Although, most of these studies have limitations that we will discuss below. If your ex is in a rebound relationship, then they will not be lonely, and they will not feel insecure about themselves because they know they can attract new partners. If your ex longs for you and thinks about you a lot, they are less likely to commit to the new relationship. It is to be noted that most of these studies have their shortcomings and limitations.
Even the authors of these studies acknowledge these shortcomings. For example, in one study, the author claimed that these studies had samples of only college aged individuals and that people at this age have shorter relationships and they usually have a habit of jumping from one short relationship to another. In my opinion, some of the findings of these studies can be true.
But it will be wrong to assume that these findings will be true all the time in all the cases. I usually get to speak to people of all ages coming from all types of relationships and breakups. And in my experience, a rebound relationship can vary greatly in length and the effect it has on an ex, depending on the type of person, the type of breakup and the type of rebound relationship.
If you are interested in talking to me about your breakup, check out my email coaching packages. One of the biggest question most people have in their mind is why did they do it? More precisely, questions like,.
These questions can be maddening. Just the thought of your ex never truly loving you can feel like dagger in the heart. Like the reality you believed in all along was just a sham. You will be glad to know these thoughts are not true. If your ex started a relationship very soon after the breakup, it does not mean that they no longer love you. It does not mean that the relationship they had with you was a sham. In this section we will discuss the intentions or the reasons your ex may have had for starting a new relationship so soon after the breakup.
Understanding these reasons can help you calm down a little bit about the rebound relationship and figure out your next moves. One of the most common reasons for an ex to start a rebound relationship after a bad breakup is because the breakup pain was too much to handle.
Even if they broke up with you, they still suffer through the grief that one feels after losing someone special in their life. They made a logical or emotional decision to end things with you, but the mind and body still goes through the withdrawal symptoms that most people feel after a breakup. To most people, a new relationship feels like a logical solution to the breakup pain.
They think that if they just replace you with someone else, the breakup pain will go away. Sure, it distracts them and the euphoria that comes with the honeymoon phase of the new relationship can make them feel like everything is great. A lot of people depend on their partner to feel good about themselves. For example, you may be insecure about your looks and need a constant assurance that someone finds you attractive enough to be with you.
Without that assurance, you may feel like something important is missing from your life. Sometimes, your ex may get into a new relationship just because they miss having sex. Sex is a lot more important for some people than others. It could be an emotional need or a physical one.
But if sex is important for them, they will try to find a partner as soon as possible after the breakup. If they get into a new relationship because of sex, the new relationship is most likely shallow and will not last long. As soon as the sex gets boring, your ex will breakup with the new boyfriend or girlfriend and look for something else. Especially if they needed you to live a comfortable and safe life. For example, suppose you were driving your ex to their work every day and without you, they have to spend an extra hour commuting through public transport.
Similarly, if you were supporting your ex financially, they may try to replace you as soon as possible because they feel they need someone to take care of them financially. Your ex may just be trying to make you jealous by getting into a new relationship too fast. A lot of people believe that the best way to move on from a breakup is to start a new relationship as soon as possible. They sometimes force themselves to start dating again after the breakup in hopes that the new relationship will help them forget about you.
This is actually a common thing in short term relationships in college aged individuals. In fact, they may have found a rebound relationship helpful when they used to have short term relationships and it was easy to get over an ex. But this does not usually work in long term relationships when you were seriously attached to your partner.
Some people care a lot more about what others think than what is truly happening inside them. Your ex may just want to show the world that they are moving on and decide to get into another relationship. For some people, dating is an exciting and rewarding experience. Your ex may just enjoy dating casually and they may be excited to get back in the dating game. If your ex is like this, they will most likely not define their new relationship as something serious.
They will most likely not get exclusive with anyone and will just date around for a while. In a lot of cases, an ex will start a relationship with someone they cheated on you with or with someone they had lined up well before the breakup. The fact that your ex cheated on you or they had someone lined up before the breakup means that they betrayed your trust. I highly recommend you do no contact for at least two months before you think about getting back with your ex.
The grass is greener syndrome is when a person breaks up with you thinking they can do better than you. If an ex starts a relationship immediately after the breakup because they had the grass is greener syndrome, then they are most likely not going to get into a serious relationship anytime soon and the new rebound relationship will not last long. In some rare cases, an ex will start a new relationship immediately after a breakup because they feel they are ready to move on. If they are really serious about moving on, they will probably choose a partner that is good for them and they will make an effort to make the new relationship work.
Perhaps the reason for the lack of connection is a short relationship or that they felt disconnected from you for a very long time. In my experience, rebound relationships follow some common patterns. Of course, not all rebound relationships are alike. But I have seen enough of rebound relationships to recognize common patterns in them. In this section, I am going to reveal the common patterns you may find in a rebound relationship.
I call a classic rebound a type of relationship that starts too soon after a breakup, goes too fast and ends too soon as well. A classic rebound has the following characteristics. They may be opposite of you in physical characteristics or behavioral characteristics. For example, if you are slim blonde, the rebound may be a brunette who is a little on the heavy side. Another example, may be if you are an introvert who likes to stay in and watch Netflix with her partner; the rebound relationship your partner chooses is a party animal who loves to party even on weekdays.
For example, if your ex is religious and they told you that they would never date someone of a different religion; they may get into a rebound of a different religion. They only care about getting into a relationship, no matter who they are getting into.
And that could mean they are getting into the relationship to avoid the pain of breakup grief. For example, they may be official on Facebook or they may start posting pictures on Instagram way too soon. They may be posting about how great their relationship is within weeks of starting the relationship.
This type of rebound relationship almost seems like a reasonable relationship. It will feel like your ex really is making an effort to move on. As if they are really trying to find the perfect person for them. Such a relationship will have the following characteristics. Similarly, if the reason they broke up with you was because they thought you were immature, they will try to find someone who is mature and knows what they want.
For example, they may tell you that they still love you but continue dating their rebound hoping that they will get over you. They will not share a lot of things over social media. In fact, they may even try to hide the rebound from you because they are not sure about what they are doing.
But will often give into emotions. Their heart will be with you while their mind will try to convince them to move on and only focus on the rebound relationship. Their will often be a lot of hot and cold behavior towards you. This type of rebound is exactly what the name suggests. This type of relationship has the following characteristics. A toxic rebound is the most dangerous of all the types of rebound relationship. The reason being your ex will find themselves in a toxic pattern that is very very hard to get out of.
These types of relationships include a lot of complicated childhood issues that sometimes take years of therapy to get over. They have the following characteristics. They will breakup with their new lover and get back together shortly after. But they will not leave the new relationship. For example, if they were active on social media, they may suddenly disappear for a few months.
Or if they were not active on social media, they may start posting a lot of things regularly. I call this type of rebound relationship the Bruce Banner rebound relationship because of a meme I made using Bruce Banner from the movie Avengers. I am not afraid to admit it. I like Memes and I am quite proud of this one. These types of rebound relationships are usually a result of someone who moves on from one serious relationship to another almost immediately after the breakup.
They never really take any time to grieve the breakup. It has the following characteristics patterns. If your ex is a serial rebounder or Bruce Banner rebounder , then they always have a romantic interest in their life disguised as a friend. As soon as they break up with you, they will jump into another relationship with the new partner. They are usually unaware of the unhealthy pattern. Even if they miss you and are going through grief, they will still do everything in their power to make the new relationship work.
In fact, you were most likely a rebound from their previous relationship. They most likely made you feel like you were very special and different from all their past relationship. But the sad truth is, they will probably do the same in their new relationship. If your ex can not commit to a relationship for a long time, it is likely that they will breakup with you again.
Do no contact and take some time away from your ex to get some perspective. If the breakup grief is too much to handle, get therapy, speak to a mental healthcare professional, or get email coaching with one of our coaches. Here are a few signs that will teach you whether or not their new relationship is going to breakup soon. As I mentioned above, these rebound relationship patterns are very common, and they often end very soon.
If you reach out to your ex after no contact, and they are excited to hear from you and it seems like they want to continue speaking with you, then there is a good chance their new relationship is not very strong and that it will end soon. Your ex may express their desire to have sex with you.
But if they are in a rebound relationship, I strongly advise against having sex with your ex. Remember, if you want to get back with them in a healthy relationship, you need to start your new relationship on healthy grounds.
You need to build strong foundations to the new relationship by being honest, communicate effectively and trust each other. If they have been in the new relationship for only a short while and they start posting pics on social media about it aggressively, then there is a good chance they are doing it to make you jealous or get a reaction out of you. In my experience, most relationships that are started within 3 months of a breakup usually end up in a breakup. Sure, there are exceptions to it like the toxic rebound relationship and the Bruce Banner Rebound Relationships and occasionally real life long lasting relationship , but they are very rare.
If your ex started a new relationship within 3 months of breakup, then there is a good chance it will end sooner or later. One of the factors that determines whether a relationship is a rebound or not is how much connected and attached your ex was with you. Usually, the longer you both were together as a couple, the stronger the connection and attachment.
If your ex does not have a strong support network of friends and family, then there is a good chance they started a rebound relationship just because they were lonely. In that case, they will fail to develop a strong romantic attachment to their new rebound and will only use them to avoid the loneliness. Most relationships like this do not last very long. You may have found out about the rebound relationship through common friends or family or you may have found out about it directly from your ex.
But as soon as you find out about it, your gut reactions will most likely be to panic and figure out a quick way to make them breakup with the rebound and get back with you. Freaking out when your ex starts dating someone else is a huge mistake.
After all, if your ex is important to you and you still have strong feelings for them; there is a good chance they have strong feelings for you as well. And if they have strong feelings for you, then their new relationship is most likely a rebound and it will end sooner or later. Embrace your emotions lovingly and compassionately. Then let these feelings go as you assure yourself that you are going to find the love you deserve sooner or later.
If your ex is the right person for you, you will get back with them. If not, you will move on to find someone else who loves and respects you for who you are. One of the common reactions after finding out that your ex is dating someone else is calling them and telling them how bad the new rebound is for them. Your panicked mind may want to try to convince your ex with logic that the rebound guy or girl is bad for them.
But the more you try to convince them to not pursue the new relationship, the more they will want to pursue it. Your ex does not want you to tell them how to live their life. And if you do, they will be inclined to do the exact opposite of what you tell them. Except this time, it will be coming from their friends and family.
OK, so you convinced yourself that you should not try to contact your ex or freak out. You start the no contact rule and cut off contact with your ex. What if they breakup? Remember, no contact rule does not work unless you make it work for you. Look, I get how hard it is to deal with the fact that your ex is dating someone else. And any type of information that can help calm your mind down feels like a god send. But some people take this to extremes. They constantly keep searching about rebound relationships, watching YouTube videos about them and just basically driving themselves crazy trying to find some piece of information that will reassure them that this is not the end that they still have a chance to get back together.
The truth is, the more time you spend obsessing over your ex and their rebound relationship, the less time you are spending on doing things that will actually help you get your ex back. More importantly, the less time you will spend on loving yourself, your own life and living well.
So, if you are still thinking about your chances take this quiz which will tell you your realistic chances of getting your ex back. And read this article about exactly what you should do to get your ex back or get your ex-girlfriend back. Bookmark the articles or print them out if need be. And take action on the advice in those articles because unless you take action, your chances of getting your ex back are slim.
There is no denying you are in a tough spot right now. Rebound relationships do complicate things when you are trying to get your ex back.
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They want to love and be loved by the new person and forget about their previous partner altogether. More often than not, people that come out of long-term relationships accept the first offer on the table the moment another person shows interest. Instead of developing a strong foundation, they dive straight into a new relationship and work on building everything else after.
To them, all that matters are the comfort and the advantages of being in a new intimate relationship. Sometimes dumpers jump into a new relationship quickly after the breakup, expecting the new person to be your successor. They want and need their next relationship to fulfill them emotionally as quickly as possible and fill the gaps where you came short. Exes that start dating immediately after the breakup do so because of internal weaknesses.
Here they are. These are the main reasons why your ex is dating already. Since your ex is dating someone else and it hurts you badly, I would advise you to do what it takes to protect yourself. The indefinite no contact rule is about you and your recovery. Every time you look at your ex, your brain will automatically convince you that your ex is happy in his or her new relationship.
This happens due to over-analyzation. Since you want only the best results for yourself, anxiety creates the worst kinds of fears. Pain and suffering, combined with a happy ex, hurts you and makes you miserable as a result.
The breakup pain is plenty I reckon. So if your ex is dating someone else already and it hurts like Satan, take my words of advice seriously. Go no contact with your ex without delay. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. Keeping tabs on your ex is like regularly looking at pictures of a dead person. It depresses you, fills you up with regret and self-blame and prevents you from moving on. Your ex, on the other hand, deserves only a big gift of absolute nothingness for discarding you.
Be really generous and give him or her as much of it as you can. Go above and beyond. See, doing nothing about your ex directly usually cultivates the best possible results when it comes to breakups. For example, if your ex-gf started seeing someone else right away or soon after the breakup, you must:. Trying to win your ex over with words and insecure actions is only going to push your ex toward his or her new partner.
If you want the best for yourself as well as your ex, you must let your ex date his or her new partner. Your ex has the right to date whoever he or she wants as the breakup has already occurred. What will help, though, is allowing your ex to see if the grass is greener on the other side. Consider your past relationship with your ex as your performance. How you performed whilst you were in a relationship with your ex will determine whether this new partner stands a chance against you.
Now, I know what you may be thinking. My friend, nobody is perfect. People are neglectful beings who take each other for granted, hence why GIGS — the grass is greener syndrome occurs so frequently. Apart from time, there are also a few ways to boost the syndrome and make it grow faster. Every relationship is guilty of these sins so here they are. The longer you were in a relationship with your ex, the more you shared together and the better you bonded.
You created precious memories together, created inside jokes, and became similar to one another. So when your ex detaches from you and starts dating someone else within weeks or months, he or she will expect this new person to take your place.
Rebound relationships fail badly because people expect the best and get a lot less than they are prepared to bargain for. It will lack the connection and intimacy of a normal relationship and fall apart. All you have to do for it to fall apart is let your ex go through the 6 stages of a rebound relationship :. So if your ex is dating someone else, this new person could actually be the gateway back to your heart—even if you messed up badly.
Secondly, your ex would have broken up with you and reassured you and stayed by your side to promote a fast recovery. Is he or she still the best human being you can possibly pair up with? Please remember that anyone who casts you out of his or her life does so because that person never wants to be with you again. Any kind of promise post-breakup is merely an excuse to withdraw from a relationship.
Breakups truly suck and the amount of damage they cause is often irreparable. Many people develop fears and phobias of relationships as a result of an ugly breakup. Whatever you do, try not to become afraid of relationships and never loving again just because you got involved with the wrong person. There are still many great people out there that will work hard for the relationship and make you a priority.
When dumpers break up with dumpees, they have absolutely no intention of ever coming back. To them, the breakup is final, absolute, certain, definite and never-changing. I often use strong words, such as crawling, begging, crying and running back whenever I mention dumpers returning to their exes. I do so for a very good reason. The emotional and mental states need to be severely impacted before your ex will even think about getting back together with you.
So when I say that dumpers come crying back, they do so because something goes horribly wrong on their end. And since they suffer, they contact their dumpees to solve their internal issues. Yes, people are that selfish. This is true whether your ex is with someone else or alone.
The reason why an ex comes back is that always something significant changes internally in his or her head. If you do any of these post-breakup mistakes , you will only ruin your breakup persona and send your future chances of reconciliation to oblivion. Is your ex dating someone else already and it hurts you beyond comprehension?
What are you doing to cope with anxiety? Let us know by commenting below. My college sweetheart brokeup with me after 3. We were deeply connected and loyal to eachother. But due to some personal misfortune in my life I was broken and feeling low in which all started after pandemic roll out. After relationship sustainability become heavy but I was trying to cope up and become stable first but she felt ignored and unheard.
After that she broke up with me and instantly dating this guy and I think not more then three date maybe slept with him it maybe speculation but she only told me but when I freaked out she said she was lying because she wants me to move on and this will happen sooner or later so she used it.
So yeah it hurts badly because I was going to marry this girl and she knows about this fact but still she now in a relationship in a blink of a moment. But your blogs and indefinite no contact makes a lot of sense. Whenever I contacted her out of desperation she started to use her new relationship as sheild and shoo me away with that, I was about to compete to win her back and was begging and all. But it seems so wrong and reading a lot of your article it makes sense that she had to come back crawling then only it will all work in right way.
Thank you zan PS you saved my life because I was clueless how to cope up all this and was being suicidal and all. Now I feel well rested after knowing the ground realities stated by you. My ex and I have been in a Relationship for around 3 years.
But since October I started having issues with her. I did some past mistakes the second year we were dating where i chatted with other girls she confronted me before and we talked she forgave me and never ever betrayed that. She often complained about me not being too affectionate to her, its true I tend to have some self issue where i am not like super affectionate but I did my best to change that and i did with her.
Since October she had a burnout from work and everything in general in her life, it was since then she started to get distant. And last time we met she just broke up with me out of the blue, she blamed me for that with things like i was only with her for personal interest, never affectionate with her. Since then once in a while we text and sometime she even text me but when i reply back she just ghost me for some days.
The weirdest thing is that if i send her a message she actually still have my login for fb messenger she would actually nearly everyday log onto my facebook when am asleep. There is hope and I got it. I read this article when my girlfriend of 4 years left me, she suffered from mental health problems and I was the guy that wanted to fix her.
It took me a couple of years to clearly understand mental health problems, during our relationship we argued a lot, we didnt have anything in common at the time and really struggled to understand each other as we had different views about our lives. My ex and I were together around 3yrs and broke up 5yrs ago. About 6 months later she started dating someone else and although I was ok with it at first, after a brief glance at his FB feed it seemed he exemplified many of the traits that caused so many arguments in our relationship.
I have known a girl for 9 months of which 4. She dumped me abruptly saying her first love whom she was going to marry came back to her life. It hurts me so much thinking that she was the one. Any advice? This is my experience with my ex gf. Does she really love her new? Until now they stay together but I know how my ex really loves me?
I just messed up our relationship. I was to blame.. I was dating this particular guy in my office. I made a terrible mistake and cheated on him, he forgave me and it happened again with the same person. I have a lot of regret and my one true love has left me. I dont know what to do anymore.
No third chance.. Will you ever get past the feeling of always being passed on? First — you need to realize that you are not the insanity that you are feeling. You are the awareness of it. You are not your involuntary feelings of doubt, heartbreak, obsession, and insecurity.
Who you are is the awareness. The fact that you are obsessing to the extent that you are, means that something is very wrong. By continuing to obsess and look at his social media , you are, essentially, sticking your own head in the toilet and then complaining about the smell. Stay strong and avoid sticking your head in the relational toilet.
Every time you put your head back in the toilet, you are doing so while robbing yourself of the dignity that is your birthright. It has to do with his impulsive, egoic needs. Not so much. You already are her. The only difference is that you actually dodged the bullet.
Never be jealous of someone for not yet knowing everything you already DO. Be the unicorn amongst all of the common horses on the range. Rid yourself of this crap once and for all. They hate the reflection way too much. This is why after a breakup, your ex will sometimes act in extreme ways as far as life decisions and dating go.
With a new girl, who he has not shown his true colors to yet, things will be all good at first. But when she starts to see through his bs or when she starts to expect more from him, he will show his true self the same way he did with you. He will revert back to his old ways because this is who he is. He will never commit emotionally, empathetically, or physically the way that you need and deserve.
Oftentimes, it becomes more about winning and playing detective than it is about subscribing to reality and acting on it. And THAT will eat away at you, make you bitter, and rob you of any confidence, happiness, and gratitude you have left. There are girls out there that actually know a red flag when they see one and act on it. They have their own lives to live. They can identify an emotionally unavailable guy relatively quickly.
And instead of trying to seek validation from them, they are able to walk away because they are simply not interested in the drama, the mixed signals, and anyone who treats them any less than they treat themselves which is pretty damn good. They have emotional and physical lives of their OWN. Focus on YOU. Get behind yourself, and know your value.
Who cares what he does? Go out there and do this for YOU. This post was a total game changer for me. Thank God for you. I love the part where you say that we are the awareness, not the insanity. I am going to print this post out,. You have a gift my dear. This article is now being printed out and hung up on my wall to read and re-read. Reading this came at the right moment. I thought it was because of me but I just realized why.
I would not recommend staying friends with him. If you have to be around him, just give the bare minimum and stay on the white horse. You deserve so much better. I know how much it hurts. Thanks Natasha! Thanks for the reminder and support I needed in this post. You indeed have a gift. You are the best! Natasha, how do you do it? I am thinking that there should be a special place in heaven set aside for you. Your insights are like some kind of guru for gals…….
Thanks for reminding everyone they are not alone in their wildly insecure moments. I was wondering if you have any thoughts on this. When an ex gets married or chooses another girl over you, is it normal to have stomach cringing reaction?
It is like mixture of anger and annoyance…. Thank you so very much for putting such a fun spin on this really rough time. My X is the classic emotionally unavailable man. For two years I tried, doubled and tripled my efforts to be loved. He absorbed everything I had to offer.. He told me that the entire 2 years we were together he was always looking for something else but since he met her he has deleted his profile on dating sites and has stopped looking and wants a relationship with her.
I believed for a time that he had destroyed me…but I am picking myself up. These articles have put some sunshine on the shadow that used to be an abundantly loving heart. I believe in you and if I can do it, so. Natasha — for the first time in weeks I actually laughed out loud with the way you make a very emotional time almost bearable.
I read your blogs every single day to give me strength. I have to replace the guy part with girl but it is all the same since my ex is just like a guy and extremely narcissistic. I am going to take note of some comments here and take a break from social media. I am cyber stalking my ex and being a spectator to her new life.
I also find myself posting more selfies of myself on my page then ever before just to show her that I am not sitting at home pining for her even though I have been. But that is not me, I mean who gives a crap that I am eating a sandwich or watching reruns of Golden Girls or drinking a beer at a pub. I need to get my head out of the toilet as you say because it is not good for me. My ex sold me a turd with a bow on it when we first started and I fell for it and then she just kept on being more of an ass and I kept taking it because I thought I was proving to her that I would never give up on her and always be there for her because she had such a rough life.
I am now trying to accept that she is emotionally unavailable and just chases the high of a new relationship. It feeds her ego and she got from me what she needed. Hard pill to swallow…. Thanks for listening!! This is a great article. Exactly what i needed right now. And you are so on point. My ex is dating someone new now after 3 months of dumping me, siad he wasnt ready for a commitment.
He is pretty into her, i can tell. So basically he just wants her to be by his side without ever committing to her. I felt bad for the new girl, maybe even a little jealous, seeing how he is so into her right now. But as you said Natasha, people never change. He is acting like a prince now, lavishing her and shit, but his true colors will show in time to come.
Not to be dramatic, but I really feel like your blog has changed my life. You have a way of wording things to make us really understand our situations and have such a way of empowering us women. You are truly amazing! Thank you soul sister. I on the other hand so dumb from my part said that I was gonna wait for him until he was ready and he agreed. The next day I found out that he was still in a relationship with the girl he cheated on me with, after he told me that he needed time alone!
I wish that I could help, but I have too much to say to type it all out and not enough hands to type or hours in the day. This is why I can no longer give specific advice in the comments. I do offer one-on-one coaching if you are interested. Thank you so much for your love, for reading and for your understanding.
What is truly amazing, is that even though I have read each of these posts a hundred times while I was up every night for months with a broken heart , is that no matter how many times I read them, I ALWAYS take away something new. So much wisdom in each of these posts!
Please never stop posting! Wow, another great post. She followed me on instagram with two different accounts which I blocked immediately , friended me on facebook and liked all of my posts that I had tagged him in from long ago. It was the most bizarre thing and I knew my old self would have accepted her friend request and stalked the shit out of her facebook.
Honestly, I really got the urge to do something drastic like post more pictures of us together and tag him in them so she could see them all, or reach out to him and ask him why she was creeping on me with no shame. I know I have you to thank for that, Natasha. You go girl! So proud of you. Take everything that happened as a huge compliment and stay on that white horse. Thank you, thank you. Your blog is so helpful and so spot on. You resonate with me the way no one else has.
I cannot thank you enough. For a year I was in a never-committed thing that I fantasized all the time about being more. He was my soul mate. My person. He moved across the country in August me foolishly offering to go with and continued to sext me every few weeks.. Using me. I finally needed this answer and I got it. A girl who I suddenly imagine gets everything I wanted with him, that he was unwilling to give me. He never even bought me a drink. I loved him, supported him, acquiesced to his needs and lack of communication.
I was perfect. I need to be on the path to healing. You are wonderful and your blog has saved me. Love, light, and gratitude. Thanks for being a part of this tribe Caren! All my love to you soul sister. Dear Natasha, first of all I want to say how much I live your blog, the way you write and the message you are sending out! I come to your blog every day and it gives me everytime strength and hope but still… My life seems to fall apart every day more, I not only fall for a narcissistic boy but I gave him everything of me.
It all seemed so perfect, we texted for two weeks before we met and on our first day he already told me he loves me. He was perfect and he loved every inch of me, my actions, my voice, everything! He would show me around, tell everyone how deeply in love he is and told me he wants to get married, have children, we even thought about moving together with his mom.
But then all of the sudden my prince became different. My parents came to visit me and he not only slept in, but also didnt appear and didnt say sorry at all. In fact he told me it was my fault. Well this nightmare behavior went on and on. We didnt talk and I felt all alone. Then one day he told me if I wouldnt stop to put myself over him — the alphaman — he is going to kill me WTF??! I moved to my cousin who lives in the UK and at first he tried to get me back by bagging and swearing and so on.
I started to believe him and when I slowly started to react positive to his words he suddenly told me, he would have never loved me, that we just moved together because I made him to, he only was with me because I forced him To! I was never his type and I am stealing all his energy, that he has got a burnout because of me…etc,etc..
He was cold and said horrible things fat,ugly,depressive and gues what at that point he already had a new gf, which he shows happily around like he used to do it with me. I am seeing a counselor, traveling, doing new things but every inch of me misses him. This good looking, charming prince he was and now is with the new one.
My friends and family said from the beginning he is a jerk, so talking with them about him is no option. I feel so stupid, weak, worthless.. Even though I read your articles everyday it doesnt seem to get better.. Will it ever end? Was it maybe really all my fault?
I dont know anymore… Xxx Francesca. Thanks sister! This is why I cannot give specific advice in the comments. I do offer coaching if you are interested. The link is at the top of the home page! My ex is already in a relationship 3 months after our breakup! Talk about devastating! I will focus on myself and let them both live their lives. I prefer to heal and deal before jumping into something so soon. You are phenomenal!! Proud of you Dee and honored to play a part in your healing and realizations.
You go girl. I have to admit this is something that has always fascinated me about exes, because they are so many conflicting theories. Even I have a few:. They know they are damage, but instead of doing the work to fix themselves they believe a silver-bullet-woman, one that is a unicorn will spark this change. The problem some women confuse is, they see the broken-ness and try to fix it. This never works. It never fails.
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